What does it take to make lasting changes to your habits?

Making changes is not simply about will power or discipline. But instead a shift in your beliefs about who you think you are. 

As author and “habit-change guru” James Clear says:

“Your current behaviors are simply a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a reflection of the type of person that you believe that you are (either consciously or subconsciously). To change your behavior for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself.”

For some of us, the idea of changing our beliefs or identity can feel anywhere from a little edgy to totally terrifying. To some extent, this is normal. We have a function in the mind (the ego) whose job is to try and keep us the same—even if we are miserable. For the ego, old and familiar is better than change. 

That’s why it’s so important, as a first step to creating real changes in your life, to learn how to work with the ego. Otherwise, we allow ourselves, and our lives, to be led by the smallness of the ego. We get stuck in its stories and beliefs and forget that we are SO much more than the ego. 

As part of getting unstuck from these stories, we want to dream, and dream big. As James Clear indicates, “you need to start believing new things about yourself.”

So I want to invite you to dream up: What new things do you want to believe about yourself?

I’m giving you full permission to fantasize here. Any holding back you do in your dreams, means the ego is still involved. Free write about this and see what you come up with.

For pragmatists, this may be a difficult exercise that seems futile. ‘Why dream about something you can’t be?’

But I would argue that only when you allow yourself to dream, could you begin to see the possibilities of how to make it a reality.

What are you dreaming for yourself? What behaviors do you want to change? And what do you need to start believing about yourself to become more of who you are?

If you’re having a hard time connecting to your dreams–it’s not uncommon. We often get ver disconnected from our deeper desires, especially if we are caretakers of any sort. If you’d like to have a complimentary session with me to discover your desires, let’s chat.

What Do You Believe About Yourself?

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” 
~Henry Ford

During the pandemic it’s become more clear to me than ever that our attitude and beliefs shape our lives.

I have a friend who is a wedding planner. When the lockdown began, she believed her business was over. Communications with her clients all but came to a screeching halt and she told me she “had to move back home.” She seemed utterly defeated. 

I recently met another wedding planner. When the lockdown began she helped her clients re-schedule everything. She connected with new venues in more remote areas where she guessed lockdown restrictions might be lifted sooner. She worked with her clients to make videos for their “future” wedding guests to share their story and help them all stay connected and excited about the event. She believed she could help her clients, and she did. As a result, she’s gained 8 new clients in the past month through referrals from her current clients. It’s the biggest bump in her business she’s ever experienced. 

What does this have to do with health and wellness? EVERYTHING!

What gets in the way of improving our health more than anything else are our beliefs about what we can and can’t do.

But beliefs are NOT reality. They are a pattern of thinking, a “habit of mind” that we have chosen.

And if we want to make changes to our health, it’s important to examine how, or if, our beliefs are serving our well-being.

If you’re interested in learning more about how you can address limiting beliefs, let’s chat! I offer a free Wellness Strategy Session where we will look at what’s getting in the way of you achieving you wellness goals and how to move past those roadblock. Contact me today to set up your free session.